Do you want your life to be more joyful? Do you want to experience and feel more joy?
If you feel like your life doesn’t have as much joy as you want it to, DO the things that bring you joy.
Active participation in this pursuit matters.
If you just sit back and wait for joy to happen, you will likely spend a lot of your life sitting back, waiting. And, maybe that in and of itself is joyful to you, and if it is, then great, continue to sit and wait. But, if it’s not, if you are longing for more - get up and get after it.
Fight for the things that bring you joy. Actively seek out the things that bring you joy and make space for them in your life. Waiting for them to find you is likely just going to end up in more waiting. And a life of waiting for your joy is just that - a life of waiting.
Stop allowing the precious moments of this life to just pass you by as you wait. Time will just keep going. It isn’t going to wait with or for you while you wait. There is no pause button.
There have been so many times in my own life that I have postponed what I knew would bring me joy because of the illusion there would always be time for it later. But that really is just an illusion. Since I was a little girl, I loved the ridiculously talented artist, performer, musician and legend, Prince. Most of the reason why I started loving him was because my older and very cool cousin who I totally idolized loved him. I remember this one time that she did a little performance for me and my brothers (we were always a willing audience- because, like I said- we idolized her) in the house that she grew up in. She sang and danced to Little Red Corvette and I remember thinking that she was just the coolest person in the world, which therefore made Prince just as cool, if not cooler. So, fast forward to a few years ago when I had the opportunity to see Prince live. A bucket list event for sure. I don’t remember what my exact reasons were but I didn’t end up going. I passed and I very clearly remember making the statement that I would go see him next time he was in town. He died before that could happen.
So, don’t wait. Don’t postpone your joy for something that you may never have the opportunity to do again. This is a short and wild ride that we are on and it’s not always easy. In fact, as we all know, at times it is so incredibly hard and painful, even damn near impossible. And tomorrow is not promised to us, nor is next month or next year. So when there is possibility in today, go after your joy. Pull her close to you. Let her sit shotgun next to you for a while and see what goodness can come from it.
Get clear on what it is that brings you joy? What is it that excites you and makes your heart beat a little bit extra? Spend a little time thinking about this and then make a JOY list of all of the things that infuse you with this feeling of aliveness.
Then do those things.
If it brings you joy to push your kids on the swings at the park, do that. If it brings you joy to be outside amongst the blooming flowers, then go outside. If it brings you joy to dance, go see some live music and dance your ass off. If it brings you joy to snuggle in with a cup of tea and a can’t-put-it-down novel, do that.
It doesn’t have to be dramatic or grandiose or even wildly creative. In fact, to me, the moments of simple joy are some of the absolute sweetest, most treasured times of my life.
The point is to create opportunities for this joy to occur in your life. Make room for it. Get rid of the habits and tendencies that take up this precious time that could otherwise be spent filling your heart with joy. Stop the scroll and put the damn phone down, close the laptop, pick your head up and look around. Look for the joy that you are seeking. You may even begin to find it in the most unexpected of places.
It’s a choice and the choice really is yours.